I labored to write the management book What Do I Do When I Get There? in a gender neutral fashion. (I mean, how awkward after all is “he/she,” and/or “he or she?”) In the process of putting the book together, I became sensitized to useful gender neutral words, which is why I’ve become so very fond of “y’all.”
Think about it. Is “y’all” singular or plural? Male or female? It just depends, and rather than risk offending anyone by careless gender reference, I simply say “y’all.” It just rolls off the tongue. Try it. It’ll grow on y’all, guaranteed.